December 8th is approaching in 4 days. We are having a day in court on that day, which ironically is exactly 6 months before my lovely other and I are getting married.
There is an amazing site called Prop 8 Trial Tracker that I follow which gives me all the scoop on what's going on with Prop 8. They have this amazing "Where Things Stand" which you can find here. On December 8th, we will be hearing about the potential releasing of the Prop 8 tapes as well as the notion of standing and the arguments related to vacating Judge Walker's ruling.
I am so anxious about this. I want so badly for it all to be done with. Our youngest daughter even mentioned it to me the other day, not understanding why Prop 8 was even still alive. I want to be able to marry my bride without restriction; without discrimination and without feeling like we are second-class citizens.
If you have any questions about how we could possibly feel like second class citizens, look up how much higher I am taxed on health benefits because I have a domestic partner, not a spouse. This is an additional percentage I pay because I am not legally married. Look at how I have to have my health benefits taken our POST-tax due to federal stipulations, thus paying higher taxes. Look at the fact the health insurance coverage my employer pays for my partner is considered income in the state of California and I have to pay taxes on it...even though they already taxed me once. Look at the fact that if I lose my job, my partner is not eligible for COBRA because it is a federal benefit.
On top of that, add to the fact that I pretty much "come-out" on the daily. "Your husband?" "No, my partner." I don't mind. I am very proud. I wouldn't change me, as it took a very long time to get to be me. It's more people's reactions. Luckily, I haven't had any bad reactions, just ones where you know they are trying to think of how to respond. I just keep on, keepin' on :-) Because she is worth it..we are worth it :-)
Here's to 4 more days of waiting...
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